* Having sex as a form of recognition, wanting to feel loved, and overcome feelings of discomfort over the relationship.
* Sexual intercourse as a proof of love.
* Sex is a form of mastery over the couples who have feelings for you.
* Eliminate stress.
* Helps you to quickly fall asleep.
* To meet the need for power and control over others.
* Overcome feelings of loneliness, sadness and feelings of others.
* To get the need for affection that you want.
* Expression of love through physical activity with your loved ones.
All of the above reasons, except the last one (as an expression of love), a number of reasons to make love to hurt themselves. Character, you and your partner have sex to receive love, avoid the uncomfortable feeling or pain, and to get a sense of security. Reasons to make love like this can cause problems for the relationship. Someone who injure themselves, who want control and power over others, have a tendency to violence against children and adults.
Someone who makes sexual intercourse as a form of validation for her feelings, her, his love, makes her partner feel controlled, exploited, and even feel intimidated.
According to Dr. Margaret Paul, counselor, therapist, educator, sex and marriage, as well as a relationship coach in pairs, not a few couples who have sex is not driven by sexual desire, but rather to expect a spouse to maintain a relationship of love. Reasons such as this would jeopardize the relationship. What then happens is, either you or him, will feel betrayed. "Using sex as a form of control over others is a form of betrayal," added Paul.
He continued, there are many people who believe that others are responsible for her feelings, including the sex life. If you believe that your partner is a task to fulfill your sexual needs, these markers are in a problem relationship.
Sex in the end emerged as an obligation rather than out of love. When one party feels has fulfilled its obligations, the relationship will break down slowly in pairs. Because no one was willing to be exploited, especially sexually. So, do not ever have sex as an obligation or merely undergoing routine, let alone ask the couple to meet your sexual needs based on the obligation.
Sexual intercourse becomes misguided when the objective is to satisfy one's needs for protection and attention. If your spouse needs attention, give it attention, not by having sex.
Sex can indeed relieve stress, loneliness, but very temporary nature. However, that does not mean you and your partner had sex to relieve stress or other uncomfortable feelings. If you become relaxed after sex, it did not matter, but that does not mean sex done to cope with stress.
Healthy sexuality comes from a feeling of love and intimacy that comes between two people. Two people who love each other, would not have sex, when one of them do not feel like doing or are not comfortable having sex. Couples who are responsible atasa feelings respectively, have sex, to enjoy the fun and enjoyment, as part of a form of expression of love towards your partner. This is a sound reason for making love. Are you and your partner have a healthy reasons to have sex?
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